Fun fact I never wanted to be a business owner. It wasn't something I ever saw myself doing. It was actually my patients in England who put the idea in my head. For this reason, I didn't have a clear picture of what I was trying to create when choosing it's name. However, I knew for certain what I was creating was definitely called Zephyr Movement.
Zephyr literally means a gentle breeze and Movement, whilst it seems a logical choice for the physio in me, was actually selected for a different definition. The intention was to create a group of people with similar beliefs who work together to do something. Whilst I'm still in the very early stages of business owning and the pandemic has been an interesting challenge in the infant stage, my goal is to offer a different choice for people.
I love the quote by Albert Einstein, "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results." Burning out, quitting life and living overseas was my redirection. I didn't want to come back home, fall back into the life I had previously created and have to take a hiatus in a few years when it drove me insane... again. I want an ecological life. I wanted to choose a life where every aspect feeds into the other, creating a sustainable evolving unit. It seems to me whilst the world is changing, hustle and grind are still broadly valued highly. I myself valued hustle and grind throughout my schooling and into my early career and whilst that is a sustainable choice for some...
Zephyr Movement was always intended as a lifestyle change. It was an offering to choose differently, perhaps choose better for you, not to simply take a break, recoup, only to go back to the same path. At ZephM, we value comfort, gentle strength, feeling your feelings and the not so fancy, not so loud, small choices that turn into big changes. If you're ready to pick differently, see the subtle choices as the defining ones and join the Zephyr Movement as it continues to evolve, here is your starter pack.
I gift you:
*A bag full of increased awareness of your breath and of your thoughts
*A coupon to breathe a little more gently and soften your muscles just a little more (no expiration date needed)
*A free pass per day for stillness: to tune into your senses, feel all the feels without apologising or receive some inner insight
*An invitation to choose the most kind and compassionate thoughts especially when your first thought is less than kind
*Endless permission slips to choose your comfort over anyone else's expectations
What you will receive:
*A top up of resilience and a little slice of calm amid the chaos that is our brutiful lives
*A whole bunch of nerdy facts about breathing and the nervous system
*A place where space is held, you are included and being the full spectrum of human is expected
For those already in the Zephyr Movement, soaring, falling and living wholeheartedly, thank you. Your support in whatever way it arrives is always appreciated. Follow us on IG: @zephyr.movement or send us an email to get involved and share how you're choosing to live the 'ZephM Way'. Because the more strong, gentle individuals the stronger more gentle community we create.
Be kind ✌️
If you missed part one maybe go back and read that first. Otherwise here is part two!
4. Order spaces while you’re learning to order your mind:
5. Cooking can be enjoyable and bring routine to your day:
6. Incidentally learning mindfulness
7. Being forced into deep connection and vulnerability:
This little glimpse at the slow and simple life showed me a little about why mental health is such a problem? Social media means we can distract we don’t necessarily have to confront, it also encourages comparisons, blows expectations up and blocks seeing human vulnerability and suffering. It can make us feel like we’re not doing enough, don’t have enough and just aren’t enough in general. Back in the day if you were the best in your town at something you were the best in the world as you knew it. Know that I’m right there with you figuring it out as I go but hope this helps or entertains who ever has read all the way to the end 😊
PS: You are more than enough right this second! Be kind ✌
Before I launch in just thought I’d do a little recap. Back in 2016 I was in a high-pressure job working in children’s critical care as a fairly new physio. Essentially, I burnt out and ‘quit’ life. Literally quit my job and four weeks later I was on a plane overseas with no plan and very little saved. I found my way onto the sailing yacht, Indigo, ‘piggy backing’ off someone else’s qualifications and signing up to cross an ocean. I hadn’t been on a boat for longer than 4hours at a time let alone know how to sail. So, there I was on the other side of the world in an industry where I was a complete novice. How do you think my anxiety was? Well here I am sharing some incidentals I learnt about anxiety so you don’t have to do something crazy, like living out at sea for 25 days to learn!
1. Identity plays a large role in keeping anxiety at bay:
2. Technology is both a help and a hindrance when it comes to anxiety:
3. Routine is the antidote to anxiety:
To be continued...
“Last time I saw you, you had your legs wrapped around a pole.”
One sentence you never want to hear from your uncle and yet this is my life. I thought I’d write about why it is worth braving the stigma to be part of the incredible pole community and how it relates to my health being a physio/hypno/human.
I read a book called Dear Lover by David Deida. In it contained mystical wisdom and insight into me defining and understanding what being a woman means to me. This along with Brene Brown’s wisdom; the worst insult for a woman is she is less than beautiful and unable to attract, led me to one realisation.
Women yearn to be seen. I yearn to be seen. “So why do I hide my beauty and my talents?”
With the rise in the ‘me too’ movement I think most women can relate to being seen when they wished they weren’t and in my experience, this leads to women associating being seen with danger.
In the pole studio, the more skin you bare the safer you will be as you can grip the pole more easily. In the pole studio, women of all shapes, sizes, colours and cultural backgrounds are all running around in the equivalent of undies and bras doing the same epic things. In this environment, we are seen lumps, bumps, hairs and all. In this community, we are celebrated for the incredible things our bodies can do and supported in revealing as much or as little as we like. We are seen safely and celebrated!!
Not only are we seen by others safely, we learn to see ourselves with more love and compassion. How can you hate the incredible body that allows you to literally hang from the skin of your elbow/knee/inner thigh/hand etc? We are finally able to see ourselves beyond skin deep.
Strength becomes far more important than cellulite. Feelings of accomplishment and freedom of expression become far more important than tummy rolls (that every-body has!!). As much as our instructors’ yell, “point your toes!” it is understood the bigger goal is admiring your body for how you can feel in it not necessarily doing a move perfectly.
How on earth can you possibly not gain self-confidence when you get a dose of that every time you go to class?
If that weren’t enough, growing up we hear stories of superheros who become alter egos and, in a way, ‘perform’ their super powers on the world’s stage. Well, hello showcase! Hello stage name! Hello self-expression and authentic self we think society won’t embrace. Whilst I still haven’t competed or performed pole at a showcase (my time is coming), social media has provided a platform where I can celebrate this facet of my authentic self and connect to so many of my pole sisters worldwide.
Now to a more serious side of things…
Hanging upside down by the skin of the back of your knee is painful and a little adrenaline inducing because you could fall, hit your head and injure yourself pretty badly.
Now polers will know the first time you do a move it kills, you get a big bruise and you feel every ounce of it. Your system wants to protect you, it sends pain signals to alert you there is a potential threat to your safety. Pain=protection!
But it was so much fun you do it again next class and it hurts a little less until the move doesn’t hurt at all…why?
No, the nerves aren’t dying, they are just being conditioned this ‘threat’ is not actually dangerous so your nervous system, calms the eff down and doesn’t perceive it as pain because you don’t need protecting. This analogy is also related to how unprocessed trauma can lead to persistent pain.
I was seen by someone I didn’t want to be seen by when I was very small. This ‘trauma’ was too much for my little brain to process and so instead it decided not to. In a way I dissociated from the experience and my nervous system shut down to protect me. I felt numb and empty and didn’t understand why. In order to finally feel, I compulsively exercised and loved the feeling of pain from training as much as the endorphine high. I also tortured myself emotionally by telling myself I wasn’t good enough.
Whilst feeling pain was assurance I could feel. Without processing the trauma, my system could only ignore it for so long. I had a similar triggering event after which I experienced central sensitization (pretty much my nervous system was on high alert, highly sensitive and gave me sharp nerve pain, numbness and pins/needles in my limbs. Even lifting my arms to do my hair was painful!) I went for numerous scans and was told by medical professionals it was ‘just my anxiety’. Unbeknownst to me at the time, hell yeah it was my ‘anxiety’.
My mind could only escape the pain for so long until my body made me hear it. I suffered for four years went on heavy duty meds and went to so much physio that didn’t really work. It wasn’t until I found a physio who focused on de-sensitising my system through pain-FREE movement and started to process this trauma through mindfulness and hypnotherapy, the physical pain fell away. It wasn’t until I treated myself with more kindness and compassion my physical pain stayed away.
Pole is painful in the best way. It allows me to both feel and release. It teaches my nervous system to distinguish between perceived danger and perceived safety. It makes me hella strong. It encourages me to embrace every inch of my incredible body. It gives me the freedom to be seen in a safe way. It unites me with a powerful community of supportive women and it’s FUN!!!
I share this so perhaps next time a stranger asks me “What do you do for training?” They will act with the same enthusiasm given to any other physically impressive task and understand pole dancing goes so far beyond the stereotype for me.